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“We teach people how to treat us.” – Phillip C. McGraw
The quote above is one of the most powerful and true sentences ever spoken. If you spend a little time alone with it, you’ll soon see relationships in your own life begin to explain themselves.
You may see mysteries unravel right before your expectant eyes. Take different people in your life, one at a time, and ask yourself, “How does_________ treat me? Is he/she comfortable around me or do they seem ‘on edge’?” Realize that if they’re “on edge” – – – – -You put them on the edge! Lighten up and they’ll come away from the edge and move closer to you. (That’s always a good thing.)
Does ————– (No relation to ________) seem to “fly easily off the handle”? Maybe you’ve put them on the defensive by being overly-critical. If you started balancing out the negatives with positives, the handle flying would diminish.
Just take a little time to delve into how people treat you and you’ll see your fingerprints plastered all over their behavior. For better or worse, you’ve basically taught them and trained them in how to treat you. The good news is, if you didn’t do a very good job – you can turn it all around.
Most of the time, our biggest mistake is trying too hard. We try to WILL people to do this, WILL them to do that, WILL them to feel this way, WILL them to feel that way…. If we were to just lighte up, enjoy life, and allow those around us to do the same, we’d all live a lot longer and smile a lot more.
Demand that each moment count!