I’ve said it before on this very blog, but I think it’s worth repeating…in fact I know it is. The mind is such a complex and amazing power that we should never underestimate the power its THOUGHTS have over our entire life.
If the brain is the center of us…and it is just that….then, whatever is going on in the control center will manifest itself outwardly.
I’m asking you to think about your thought patterns for a minute. What do you think about more than anything else? Does worry for a loved one or loved ones occupy most of your thoughts? If so, you probably neglect yourself a great deal.
For example, how many young mothers BEFORE their pregnancy and birth look like something that stepped out of a catalog? – With jewelry, hot clothes, painted nails, make-up and their hair done, they take pride in their appearance and it shows. Fast forward a year, sometimes even two or three. The same girl can very often be found…IF you recognize her! The problem isn’t the girl, physically – she’s still as beautiful as ever. It’s just that her appearance (and even herself) has taken a backseat. Her thoughts now center primarily around her child – what he/she drinks, wears, laughs at, gurgles at, etc.
Is there anything wrong with that? Of course not! I did it 3 times over – and if God ever developed a mischievous sense of humor and unmatched randomness, I’d do it a 4th time. I fell into the trap deepeer than anyone. When I was in my teens, my fingernails were never NOT pink, my hair was styled each morning, I spent $$$$ on name brand clothes and had more shoes than any shoe store worth its weight. I even smelled like Charlie perfume when I went to bed – after a 30 minute bubble bath. I was a baby diva unlike any you’d ever find.
Then. Came. Babies. My nailpolish bottles caked up, my curling iron packed its cord and ran away from home….. Charlie? I was afraid of having too much perfume around my babies (????), so I started smelling like Baby Powder – after a 3 minute bath (couldn’t be away from my girls longer than that).
So, uh, yeah, my control center was a baby nursery. I stopped my writing, except for writing in baby books or writing letters to family members. It never even hit me until one day when I was looking at old pictures. Pictures of me from the ages of 12 to 18 were so alarmingly different from recent pictures. Of all things to notice, I looked at the fingernails. In all of the old pics, they were beautiful – all done up in a hot pink or red from Avon. Hair just so… Then I looked at the more recent ones: Naked nails, ponytails, sweat pants, and t-shirts. My jaw dropped and I threw away the sweat pants.
Well, you get the point.
Another example would be the man who becomes so consumed with making money that it’s, literally, all he can think about OR talk about. Another bad deal. Work and money become all he thinks about and he begins to lose any sort of fun streak or personality. How many professionals do you meet and think, “Man, he has NO personality whatsover!” The thing is, he probably did once, before his mind became consumed with money rather than life.
Should an individual love their work – heck yes. Should an individual love their children – hell yes! But nothing….not even family…should take up every square inch of your thoughts.
Make a point of watching your thoughts for a while – see where they run off to when unsupervised. They probably have a favorite spot that you weren’t even aware of. Now, take a look at what, if anything, this retreat is costing you. Make an effort to make your thoughts as well-rounded as possible.
There’s more to it than this, though. Once you make sure you don’t put all of your thought eggs into just one basket – you have to, then, make sure that you don’t entertain negative, self-limiting, harmful thoughts.
Not long ago, I was telling my daughters how I want them to always live out loud – and never in a whisper. I want them to see how big and beautiful life is and not EVER let anything or anyone ever fence them in. In order to live life largely, you have to harness your thoughts. Negative thoughts will do as much damage as positive ones.
If you frequently think, “I’m down…” – you’ll soon be down so far you won’t be able to see up.
If you frequently think, “I’ve got to hurry!” – you’ll soon be living at such a fast pace no one will be able to (or even want to) keep up with you. Your health will also suffer greatly.
If you frequently think, “I’m so worried about…” – you guessed it, you’ll become the biggest worry wart to ever carry the title.
If you frequently think of things your mad about or people who make you angry, you’ll soon be a walking/talking temper tantrum waiting to explode. Ugly? You know it.
Let’s flip that all around now.
What would happen if you frequently thought of reasons to be happy?….
What would happen if you frequently thought of ways to show people how much you love them?…
Instead of thinking about the problems, what if you thought of ways to solve them?….
Someone once said, “You are what you eat.” – But I think Walter Anderson said it best, “You and I are not what we eat; we are what we think.” So, if you do one thing today, vow to start taking your thoughts in a positive direction – your life will follow them. Godspeed!
Make each thought count,